“Understand that sexuality is as wide as the sea. Understand that your morality is not law. Understand that we are you. Understand that if we decide to have sex whether safe, safer, or unsafe, it is our decision and you have no rights in our lovemaking.”
― Derek Jarman
In order to fully embrace the breadth and diversity of issues that fall under the umbrella of “sexual freedom as a fundamental human right” it is helpful to establish working definitions of the language of the sexual freedom movement.
Sexual freedom is the fundamental human right of all individuals to develop and express their unique sexuality. It lies at the heart of the promise of human dignity, self-determination, and equality embodied in both the U.S. Constitution and the Universal Declaration of Human Rights.
Human Rights are interdependent, inter-sectional, inalienable rights that are the birthright of all human beings, regardless of geography, nationality or identity. Human rights include economic rights, environmental rights, sexual rights, cultural rights, social rights, political rights, developmental rights and civil rights.
Now when I talk about sexual rights, I do not mean taking off clothes and engaging in sexual activities anywhere one pleases, but having the right to love anyone they wish, be it a man or woman. It is possible that a man may love a woman. This is quite natural. But, it is also possible that he may love a man, or may have feelings for both, or none. He may also belong to the category of transgenders. And believe me, there is no harm in any of the above.
Until today, and still, people are making an issue out of the fact that a man loves a man or a woman loves a woman, i.e. homosexuality. It is high time that we realize that being gay/lesbian/bisexual is not out of choice. We all know how love happens. It is a matter of seconds, and you fall for that person. Love knows no boundaries of caste, community………….and even gender. It happens when it wants to happen. It happens with that one special person, be it a man or a woman.
I do not understand, if a man decides to fall in love with a man, where is the wrong? It is his own personal choice and he has the absolute freedom to do so. Through this article, I do not want to talk about homosexuality, much has been said about it, but about why is it important to not interfere in the other people’s decision regarding sexuality.
Every individual has the right (never-mind the Indian Constitution) to choose his/her own sexuality. So what if the Indian Constitution does not provide for a man marrying a man, but people in India are now, at least, more aware that they can fight for rights guarding their personal decisions. It is the sole decision of an individual who to fall in love with. Researches show that many homosexual teenagers (in countries where being gay/lesbian is illegal) are committing suicide only because they think they have brought a bad name to their families.
The society plays a very important part here. Imagine, if your neighbor next door is gay. What will a typical family do? Look down upon that person, stop talking to the family and humiliate them. This is where we are going wrong. It is very important for us to realize that if homosexual and bisexual people are letting us live in the society, why can’t we, as straight people, let them peacefully live in the society? This earth on which we live is as much theirs as much as it is ours. If they come together and fight against straight people, that will cause fragmentation of the society.
It is very important to stop judging people on the basis of their sexuality. It is important for us to accept them as and how they are. Their sexuality isn’t a matter of concern for us, but for themselves. Whether they are homo/hetero/bisexual, that is their own choice. We are no one to tell them to stop loving the person they do and love someone else.
We, in almost every nation, have been fighting for democracy, which ensures equality, and are, ironically, suppressing it!
Again, what is, like always, important is the awareness!
Live, and let live, because…